my name is matthew, aged 29 years as of last november. most friends call me 'thew' (the last two parts of 'ma-th-you' ... kind of like a sneeze), though my parents and extended family, no matter how much correction, still call me 'matt'.

i'm a computer programmer by trade and hobby and have been doing it since i was 11. i'm a perfectionist, and computers provide an excellent outlet for that. i am creative, too, but in more of a problem solving, reduce things to their primaries, sort of way.

i am shy in group situations. it is hard for me to tell people things about myself. initially, one on one, i mostly ask questions, and then ask more questions based on responses.

i think that i feel life more than most people. i love to dance, though am only comfortable dancing by myself, with people whom i really trust, or in an intoxicated state.

i love music. my absolute favorite bands are the cure and phish. other artists that i love are portishead, the cowboy junkies, depeche mode, laurie anderson, janis joplin, erasure, my life w/ the thrill kill kult, phil lesh, peter murphy, jimi hendrix, django reinhardt. aretha franklin, mazzy star, ... also, lots of individual songs by varied artists.

i'm sorry to list so many people, but i feel that a person's favorite music can really define them. and being uncreative musically, myself, pointing to other people might help you to understand me.

i can't stand listening to boring, unemotional music. i also don't like television or radio, even as background noise. it all grates on me. it's not that i don't like television and radio as devices, it's just that i don't like their current content.

i like movies by woody allen, robert altman, and david lynch. i've actually only started watching movies within the past few years.

ayn rand has had a profound effect on me. she has put names to things that i have always felt.

i like reading but have recently had trouble finding new material that i like. my first rand book was in '92 (the fountainhead), and most recently i have been captivated by tom robbins and roald dahl. i used to like science fiction, but can't seem to get into that genre anymore.

i can't stand newspapers. why aren't there newspapers which report about things that make one cry with happiness instead of sadness? what i love most about rand is her pointing out that we don't live in a malevolent universe; that suffering is not a natural state of existence.

i don't like gossip and would much rather discuss ideas rather than peoples' lives.

i love sunsets. i love city skylines. i love storms. i love my puppy (boris, the cutest pug who ever lived). i love cuddling. i love waves. i love puffy, cotton-ball like, clouds. i love mountains. i love precision engineering. i love diet coke. i love roadtrips.

i am argumentative, but am always longing to be, and happy when, disproved. i like to have my premises challenged. i'm appreciative of people who make me think.

Tue 1/15/2002

wild yet gentle
true to himself
Photographer, Carlos Vergara

"Matthew is no longer with us. He passed away last night and I hope his soul is in heaven where it belongs. Because he was the gentlest and nicest and most graceful of all people I ever met in my life. He was like a son for me, a great friend to many of us and just a wonderful colleague to all of us. Please take a minute and pray for him. Thank you,l" Virgil Bistriceanu

Matthew Sean Minogue
November 21, 1972 - April 9, 2002
may he find his peace

Waiting on an Angel
"I finally ended my life last night. Yea! Hopefully, with your perspective, you know that this is a happy event for me. I wish you well. You're one of the coolest people I've ever met. Thank you for being my friend. If there's an afterlife, and if I'm an angel, I'll be looking out for you. Love, thew"

Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked outta my life
Un-cry these tears I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
from Toni Braxton's song

In literature and mythology,
moths symbolize the helplessness of desire.
In "The Lesson of the Moth," Don Marquis wrote:
Fire is beautiful
and we know that if we get
too close it will kill us
but what does that matter
it is better to be happy
for a moment
and burned up with beauty
than to live a long time
and be bored all the while.
from a NYTimes online article

 

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